Pseudo victim mentality is a blow to feminism & needs to stop!

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Feminism is an ongoing movement to bring socio-cultural and economic equality for women with regard to all aspects of life. On a daily basis, women make an effort to get the equal status that they deserve in this patriarchial society. And certainly, it is not easy. It is not easy to break stereotypes, break glass ceilings, and tenaciously make their voices heard!

However, there are a few instances that tarnish the efforts put in by numerous women on a daily basis. Two such instances happened recently that raised many eyebrows. In one incident a woman was seen slapping an e-rickshaw wala numerous times as the e-rickshaw touched past her car. Even if she had any complaints, she should have complained at the local police station, but she grabbed the collar and went on slapping the e-rickshaw wala without any second thoughts while he kept pleading sorry. She was later taken into custody for such unruly behavior.

Another very condemnable incident occurred when a woman was seen giving vulgar and derogatory comments to security guards. She kept making very objectionable hand movements and kept saying that some women whom she probably knew, were mistreated for some reason.   She held the security guards guilty and was also seen attacking those who were in their uniform by grabbing their collars! She was obviously taken into custody. It seems she was a lawyer! I wonder what kind of education or upbringing leads to the development of such condemnable behavior! Why take the law into your hand when you seemed to have studied it? Education that does not build character, be it for a man or a woman is futile, at the end of the day!

I noticed a similarity in both the incidents, the women were from a well-to-do families, educated, and had all the modern resources at their disposal. They played the pseudo victim card and one thing that I can never digest is when such women use words like “mother-fucker” or “sister-fucker”  so deliberately in a heated argument. Is this habit so deep-rooted in the conditioning that, the literal meaning of abusing your own community just takes a back seat?  Does giving out cuss words really make one seem updated? No, right!  This needs to be debated enough and our young generation certainly needs to understand this.

Is this feminism in today’s modern world? One such act and the effort put in by the whole women community to gain equal status is questioned! Why can women, especially those who belong to the so-called ‘elite’ layer of society not think before slipping down the pedestal of grace & feminity?

In a world where we strive to bring equality for women, using feminism as a weapon to play a victim card, that too a fake one is something that needs to stop. I appeal to the young women out there to take a moment and understand that breaking the laws of the land to seem cool is not okay, developing a brazen behavioral pattern and distancing oneself from grace & elegance is not okay and despite having all resources, accusing and abusing others, just because you are a woman is certainly not okay!

What are your thoughts on this? I will wait eagerly to hear from you !



3 Comments Add yours

  1. Vikram Karve says:

    Nicely written blog Chinmayee – very insightful and topical

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks a ton for your comments


  2. Maybe I am getting too old. I could never see the point of swearing at another person simply because you wish to upset them. Trying to heal is so much more rewarding than trying to open a wound.


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